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Three Small Ways to Show Your Love This Valentine’s Day 

Written by David Dunn

Every time Feb. 14th rolls around, I always ask my wife the same thing: “What do you want to do for Valentine’s Day?” Her answer is also always the same: “I don’t want to go out.” From the overly packed restaurants to the expensive dinner prices to the piled-up traffic on the way home, she’s always found Valentine’s Day to be more rigorous than romantic. That’s why she much prefers spending Valentine’s Day at home because at least there, we have the time and the space to be invested in each other and not be distracted by the noise around us. 

Many people build up this idea that Valentine’s Day has to be this grandiose extravaganza where we overindulge each other with lavish gifts and expensive experiences. I’m here to tell you all of that is unnecessary. If you’re really looking to impress your true love on Feb. 14th, here are three small ways to make Valentine’s Day truly special for your significant other. 

1. Make something for her. 

If that handbag or piece of jewelry is looking too steep for your wallet, don’t worry — it’s not the only, or even most meaningful, gift you can give this Valentine’s Day. According to a YouGov poll, 20% of adults prefer something homemade as opposed to any other gift you can find in the store. Sure, you can never go wrong with flowers, chocolates, and a card, but 90% of the time, your significant other will find a homemade gift much more meaningful. 

These DIY projects can be anything from wall art to throw pillows to blankets and even paintings. But if all else fails, nothing beats a heartfelt letter to your lover. One of my earliest Valentine’s Day gifts to my wife was a poem I wrote for her called “Infinite Embers” where I spoke about the fire I saw in her hair, in her eyes, and in her spirit. We’ve had several Valentine’s Days since that one, yet, that first poem I wrote for her all those years ago remains to be her favorite. Sometimes, the best gift you can give is the one that comes from the heart. 

2. Cook for her. 

Classic spaghetti and meatballs
An image of a classic spaghetti and meatballs dish. It is easy to make and delicious to eat. 😋

Now stay with me on this one — you do not have to be a trained chef in order to put in the effort for your romantic partner in the kitchen. Take me, for instance. When my wife and I first started dating, there wasn’t a single time when I cooked that I didn’t smoke up the kitchen at the same time. I even set off the smoke detector a few times. 

But the cooking itself isn’t really the point — it’s the fact that you put in the effort to impress her. She’ll see that you tried, and she’ll appreciate that you stepped outside of your comfort zone for her. I recommend starting with an easy pasta or rice recipe. Marry Me Chicken is a simple dish that only takes a half hour to make, or you can go for the traditional spaghetti and meatballs. After all, there’s nothing like replicating that infamous kiss from “Lady and

The Tramp.” 

In the best-case scenario, you’ll have impressed your partner with a homemade meal that she’ll never forget. In the worst-case scenario, you’ll have a fun memory to look back on and laugh about. Plus, pizza and Chinese takeout are always available as a backup in case you set your kitchen on fire. 

3. Spend time with her. 

Take it from someone who’s recently got this marriage thing down — the very best gift you can give your partner is your time. The gifts and the meal are one thing but knowing that you care about your partner, and you enjoy spending time with them is better than any other grand gesture you can give her. Ask her how her day was. Tell her your favorite thing about her. Share what makes your relationship special to you. Being present and connecting with your partner is a gift that no one else can give except for you. 

With that, I wish you good luck and happy romancing to all of you true lovers out there this Valentine’s Day. I hope you and your partner have the best romantic holiday ahead of you. And remember, don’t forget to turn off the smoke detector.

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