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The Misleading Numbers About Men And Domestic Violence in North Texas


By Sir Aaron Kristopher

Domestic violence is a tricky subject when it comes to men, and getting men to be open about their experiences with domestic violence is a challenge. Thanks to media and personal experiences, we often associate being a victim of domestic violence with signs of weakness or vulnerability.

[Source: The Bettered Men Foundation]

During the first Bettered Men survey

conducted, 100 people were interviewed within the Dallas-Fort Worth Metroplex, with 91% of participants identifying as a man. These interviews took place in various locations, including parking lots, stores and over the phone. They were all asked the same questions, and what we found yielded staggering results.

Out of the 100 people surveyed, 64% of them stated that they felt or experienced domestic violence. When asked what kind of domestic violence they experienced, the majority at 37% stated that they felt emotional abuse. 24% of respondents said they experienced verbal threats of violence, and 21% of men reported being a survivor of physical abuse.

[Source: The Bettered Men Foundation]

According to the 2020 United States Census Bureau, there were 663,950 men living in Dallas, 437,310 men in Fort Worth, 193,226 men in Arlington, 33,987 men living in Mansfield, and 94,454 in Grand Prairie, bringing it to a total of 1,422,927 men living in these areas. When compared to our initial sample size, this means 910,673 of men have been in a domestic violence situation, with 298,814 of them experiencing some form of physical abuse. These numbers are much higher than the usual narrative surrounding domestic violence against men. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence states that 34.9% of Texas men have experienced domestic violence, a percentage that is much lower than our research. However, they also state that 25% of men who experienced domestic violence also experienced some form of physical abuse. This 25% is much closer to our 21%.

These numbers only represent the few that have come forward to share their experiences. With more research, we can conduct a more well-rounded study with larger sample sizes. Future studies will focus on different sample sizes to closely represent the differences in population.

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Apr 05

It's also important to get insight on the reasons and/or motivations for the domestic violence these men are receiving. If we can better describe those, we can understand better how that domestic violence comes to be.


Mar 18

I have been on the receiving end of all these types of domestic violence. In each I did morph touch, raise my voice, threaten or cause her to get angry. Hit with her fist in the face, head, stomach, back and privates. Scratched in the face and neck. Been hit with heavy objects, been hit with thrown objects.

Verbal abuse. Controlling behavior searching my phone, papers, isolation from family and friends, forced to wear what she wants me too, forced to get a haircut she wanted, forced to eat what she buys,

Spending controlled, car key’s controlled.

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